Forget Depression. Do your work!

I know! I know! Forgetting Depression? It’s easier said than done.

However, I’m not giving out any advice to forget it, but to act in disguise.

It is a well-known fact that thousands of people suffer from depression on a daily basis, but are too afraid to talk about it.

It takes away their enthusiasm and willingness to carry out day to day chores, pushing them harder into the pitfall of self-destruction.

Let’s see.

You are assigned a task at your work, or school, with a certain deadline, but you just can’t gather the energy or courage to start it.

Why? Because you think you are not capable enough to do it.

Well! Here are 4 easy ways to jump off your comfy bed right now to the worktable and complete the task you’ve been procrastinating about.

1. Stop Self-loathing

Before you even start with the negative self-talk, please stop!

Think about it – the person who gave you the task wouldn’t have assigned it to you if they didn’t confide in your potential.

It’s okay if you take longer than others to do something easy.

It’s okay if you feel down and need some time to relax. Take it. But don’t bash yourself for something you have no control over.

Accept that you are depressed and need to work hand in hand with it and get a hold on your life.

Keep yourself motivated.

2. Speculate the Setback

Look out for the obstacles in your way.

What could possibly make you run away from doing your work? Less time? Or unawareness about the task?

In most cases, you love the job. But the only major setback in this case is YOU – Your excuses. Your issues. Your procrastination.

Depression makes you want to run in circles meanwhile waiting for someone to stop you and hand you a glass of beer. It’s complicated.

Don’t let your setbacks make you forget why you started.

3. Divide and Rule

Break down the big task into smaller ones and accomplish them one by one at a time.

Suppose, you have an assignment for work, which is about 10 pages, but you are too depressed to even start.

What you can do is, write one page on Introduction first, then treat yourself for accomplishing it.

This will not only provide you with a sense of accomplishment, but also make it more fun.

Who says you must finish it in one go?

Do as you please, with your own pace, because that’s what makes you – YOU. But make sure to complete it before the deadline.

Give yourself enough credit for trying.

4. Remember the Outcome

Never start anything without considering the results.

What if completing the assignment makes you feel content in the end? Or completing the project brings you one step closer to your promotion or big raise?

You’ll work harder to achieve these results, won’t you?

Always remember that there are people dying out there to get the opportunity that comes free to you. Please appreciate it and give your best.

To sum up –

Just be yourself. Understand your reasons for the unwillingness to perform. Work on them while taking short breaks, if needed. Plus, don’t forget the amazing rewards.

I hope you pick yourself up before falling into the darkness instead of waiting around for someone else to do it.

So, go on and START! 🙂

10 signs of a Depressed Person.

In my previous post, I talked about Depression, and how the mindset of an Individual works when he/she is most likely to become a prey of depression.

I apologize for using the term ‘depressed people’ like they are any different, but I had to be more specific. I hope you understand. 🙂

I would highly recommend you to read that before we can talk about the possible symptoms.

Even though it is quite difficult to comprehend what goes inside the mind of a person, there are a few signs that can help you assess if someone is on the verge of slipping into depression or already trapped.

1. Excessive Sleep

A person suffering from depression will sleep all day long, or at least pretend to be asleep to avoid interactions.

They are addicted to their alone time, lying in their bed, with windows and curtains shut, earphones plugged in , and listening to Changes by XXXTentacion or some other sad songs.

They might tell you that they feel peaceful while listening to this music, but you must be aware that these songs are just pulling them more into the black hole of depression.

2. Sleep Deprived

Depression takes away the ability of people to relax and have a good night’s sleep.

They are up all night, wondering what went wrong, why they aren’t good enough, and what not. Night-time is the most active time of their life.

Being an insomniac doesn’t validate your depression. But if you voluntarily stay awake to think about what happened with you 2 years back at a public event, it is a major reason of concern.

3. Staying Indoors

There is no better comfort like home. Avoiding social gatherings and public events is completely fine.

However, procrastinating about meeting friends and family is not okay. Because if their loved ones aren’t aware of their situation, they’ll probably end up stuck in the deep pitfall. And no one can save them.

There can be two reasons why they don’t talk to or visit their friends –

Unwillingness to face their loved ones, to avoid bothering them for their personal concerns.

Inability to explain their pain, because they themselves don’t understand how they feel.

If you are introverted soul who loves to stay back home just to spend some quality time with yourself, like me, you are not depressed. It’s healthy.

4. Frustration

Short-tempered people are more likely to be undergoing a turmoil of emotions.

I understand, if this is a part of your personality or zodiac sign, but talking back or yelling at your friends, or family to be specific is just not an excuse to say “I’m like this, I can’t change”.

Their tolerance power keeps deteriorating with time. They can see themselves hurting their loved ones, which ultimately digs a deeper wound in their own hearts because they can’t do anything about it.

So, they end up pushing their closed ones away.

5. Overthinking

We all are over-thinkers, voluntarily keeping ourselves busy in unproductive self-talk and issues.

But at some point of time, we have to stop ourselves from thinking too much about the past or the future because it ultimately ends in self-doubt.

If you are capable of standing your ground for not going out to parties, or not sleeping at night, then you might as well try to overthink productivelythink in excess, but only about things that can help you grow.

6. Anxiety

When we read the word ‘Anxiety’, our immediate thought process goes into the time when we first attempted public speaking.

Well, that is nervousness – a sudden rush of emotions when you are extremely scared of the consequences of an event whereas anxiety is the physical trauma one goes through as a result of unwanted stress.

Anxiety is a whole another issue that needs an in-depth understanding of the reasons why a person feels this way. A person turns toxic, and his/her inability to comprehend the situation leads to personal trauma and self-doubt.

7. Criticism

At one point or other in our lives, we all have witnessed ourselves in this scenario, and we have hated it.

Always saying mean things to people who want nothing but good for us is one of the most wicked things that comes out of depression, which brutally damages the respect that they have for themselves, because they fail to find the courage to apologize.

Such people have a million of inner insecurities that make them question every positive thing that happens to them, just to turn it into a bubble.

8. Lack of Confidence

There are some people who allude confidence like it’s no big deal, while others have a little (OK, a lot) of trouble putting their feet on the ground.

And it’s completely fine because we all are getting to know ourselves, which is opposite of what people in depression do.

They have a fixed mindset that nothing can be changed, which is okay because if they could change it, they would. But the point is – their confidence level drops because no one tries to level it up.

9. Always tired

People tend to be exhausted when they’ve been a part of some heavy physical activity or a stressful day at work or school.

However, some people are tired, without any specific reason. Their ultimate excuse for not smiling or talking is “I’m tired, please don’t talk to me right now.”

In reality, they are tired of themselves feeling this void, extremely sick of fading out in the crowd that they avoid interactions altogether.

10. Complex Appetite

Last but not the least, the food intake suggests a lot about how a person is feeling.

Sometimes, a person doesn’t eat much because he/she doesn’t feel like eating, but the fact is that food is our basic need and if someone refuses to eat then there must be a solid reason behind it.

Overeating, not eating anything, sudden lose/gain in weight are the only visible signs that can help us identify if a person is in need of help.

Conclusion

Humans are complicated but they always leave a few hints to see if someone cares enough to pay attention. If you care about the people in your life, please try to observe these signs in them.

If you find anything odd in their behavior, please try having a conversation with them ASAP. Your one act of kindness can save a person from failing in their own eyes.

If you or someone close to you is suffering from depression, or feeling low – Reach out to me at myserenewords@gmail.com.

I’d be happy to help.

Stay Tuned.

Dealing With Depression.

Hello beautiful people.

Before you start reading, I must tell you that this would’ve been a long post, so I split it into small parts for you to get a clear picture and an in-depth knowledge of what we’re talking about here.

All I want is to share everything that I know about depression and how to deal with it.

Please read, share and save a life.

The more we try to avoid talking about it, the more it gets into our head. I’ve seen people on the peak of their careers who failed to overcome depression and ended up committing suicide.

I’ve always written about self-love when I should have been writing about the reasons why it is so difficult for people to fall in love themselves. And depression is one of the most disturbing and vicious of all.

It’s been quite a long time that I’ve been talking to people about what’s bothering them, and there are a few things that are common for all.

Before I dig deep into those things, let me start off by explaining the real meaning of depression, and the mindset of an individual having suicidal thoughts.

What is Depression?

I’ve read a share of articles that describe depression as a feeling of loss and fear. Some of them stated depression as an emotional disorder. However, it is much more than just a condition of mood swings.

We’ve all been there, but we made it out of the pitfall whereas some couldn’t. So, it’s our responsibility to help them out.

It starts with “I’m not good enough” and ends up in taking up our lives. If you see these signs in someone, please ask them to reach out for help.

I’ve had enough conversations with people suffering from self-doubt, who were not at all willing to talk it out as they believed that people would judge them or will make fun of them. Honestly, I don’t blame them for thinking this way.

There must be a reason why they feel like being attacked for expressing their feelings, which is heartbreaking.

No one is born with depression. It’s this fucked up society that has made them question their worth.

The point is that it is more about the people surrounding the depressed person, rather than someone who is suffering. We are so self-involved that we often forget to ask our near and dear ones about their emotions.

We are extremely busy in our lives, I know, but what about the people we love who have no one except you to talk to? If we’re not there for them, who will?

If you want to help someone, the first thing you need to understand is the thoughts that go through their mind, which I’ll be talking about now.

Mindset of a Depressed Person

When someone seems overly complicated, lost and seeks an answer for their overthinking and questions, that person is going into depression. It is more than just feeling sad over a breakup.

Their world is constantly sinking. They are more prone to living in the dark than go out for a walk. Even if they go out with friends, the moment they re-enter their home/room, their world starts falling apart.

They have had pretty bad experiences, which made them less trusting and silent. They’ve spent countless days questioning their worth and nights crying over why they aren’t good enough.

They have no clue why they’re feeling such emotions, so please don’t tell them that “It will be fine” because it’s easier said than done for them.

One moment they are over the top, feeling life, and the other second, their whole world comes crashing down. All they want to do is stuff their heads into their pillow and cry out.

Merely telling them to “Stay calm”, “Everything will be alright” or “Have faith in God” does not help, at all.

They don’t need solutions to overcome this feeling, but a trustworthy person who could just listen to what they have to say, without any judgments.

Please be this person for them 🙂

Writing about this was so damn important to me, because I can’t see my closed ones or their loved ones suffer due to something that isn’t even their fault in the first place.

A single thought of losing my family members or friends because of depression, scares me to death and almost had me in tears.

Please ask your friends, siblings and even your parents if something’s bothering them.

Don’t think about it as a difficult conversation but something that would save time and endless emotional devoid of your loved ones.

Look out for these signs.

Sometimes, people don’t feel like talking to their friends or families about their real emotions due to the fear of coming out as over dramatic, clingy or being a pile-on.

People suffering from depression are the kindest human beings. They’ve been through so much, but they won’t let their emotions ruin your day, which is why they don’t express their emotions to you.

So, they turn to strangers. And I request you to be a kind and loving stranger for them to talk to.

Be there for them, or just redirect them to people who can help.

If you or someone close to you is suffering from depression or having suicidal thoughts, please contact me on myserenewords@gmail.com for a conversation.

I’d be happy to help.

Stay tuned.